frequently asked questions
Straightforward answers to some of the most frequently asked questions about getting married in New Zealand.
What are the legal requirements for marriage in NZ?
Thankfully for everyone, New Zealand has very few legal requirements.
- You need to complete the “Notice of Intended Marriage”. I can provide a copy of this form and help with completion.
- The marriage must be performed by a Marriage Celebrant or Registrar of Marriages at the place specified on the marriage licence.
- During the ceremony, each party must say the words “I AB (full name) take you CD (full name) to be my legal husband / wife” or words to similar effect.
- You must marry in the presence of at least two witnesses.
- You must be at least 16 years old. Parental consent is required if you are 16 or 17 years old
- Both parties and witnesses must sign the registration forms.
Can we marry anywhere?
Basically, yes you can. By choosing an outdoor venue that has significant meaning to you as a couple can bring an extra dimension to your day. However, a permit is always required if the ceremony is to be in a public place and some councils will charge a fee depending on the location. If you are looking at having an outdoor wedding, it’s a good idea to have a ‘Plan B’ indoor venue as a back-up. There is nothing worse than having all your plans sabotaged by a rainy day. It may not be how you exactly planned it, but it will take the stress out of any last minute panic. There are two spaces provided on your “Notice of Intended Marriage” form to give you a wet weather alternative if you are marrying outdoors. You must marry at one of the locations noted on your marriage license.
How far in advance can we/should we book a celebrant?
You can book your celebrant at any time (securing your date and time with a deposit) bearing in mind, a good celebrant will be booked out quite early in advance, so don’t leave it too late. The more time in advance you book your key items (celebrant, venue, reception and photographer) the more likely you will get your first choice in the main players. My recommendation is to book with me between 6 and 18 months prior to your wedding day. This recommendation is based on ensuring my availability and leaving plenty of time to create your perfect wedding ceremony.
What are your fees?
The average charge for celebrants in Auckland is currently $400 to $800 and anywhere in between. As every couple’s requirements are different, we can discuss fees at our initial consultation. As I am more than happy to travel, this additional travel may attract a surcharge such as a ferry ride to Waiheke Island. However, this will be discussed during our obligation free meeting so there will be no surprise expenditures to upset your budget.
When do I make payment?
I request a deposit of $100 on confirmation of your booking. This will secure your wedding date with me so that I cannot book that date and time to another couple. The balance will then be payable on or before your rehearsal date. I can supply receipts and invoices for your records if you need them.
How many times to we need to see you leading up to the wedding day?
This can depend on your availability however, I do understand that life is very busy when planning a wedding so I have systemised the planning so as you only really need to see me the once and then you will see me at the rehearsal should you wish to have one. Remember you are welcome to make more appointments if you like.
Can we choose our own ceremony words?
I will work with you to design your perfectly unique ceremony with 100% attention given to what is important to you. We can use a combination of your own ideas or tap into the endless material that I have.
Can we write our own vows? Do we have to have the same vows? Do we have to remember our vows?
Yes, you can write your own vows. I will give each of you as much support as you need and you can choose to say different vows from each other or have the same. This is a wonderful way to really personalise your love for each other and I take a lot of pride in helping you get this just perfect for each of you. As for repeating your vows on the day, you can choose to read, repeat or memorise your vows. We can talk more about this once the vows have been designed.
Do we need a rehearsal?
I usually recommended that a rehearsal takes place at your venue within the week prior to the day itself. Ideally the rehearsal should include all the key participants of your day so that they are comfortable with the part they have to play on the big day itself (you may want to also include your photographer) Small details ensure that everything runs smoothly – have a look at my check-list – and think “stress free day”.
What time will the celebrant be there on the day?
I ensure that I am at the venue at least 30 minutes before the guests’ arrival. I will do a sound-check with the PA system and double-check that the seating, signing table, etc are all where we expect them to be following on from our rehearsal. If not, there will still be time to place everything correctly before guests start arriving.